New dad terrified to sleep—how do you handle the fear of missing baby’s

krasshine

I welcomed my firstborn three days ago and brought her home today. I’m EXCited to raise her and to connect with other dads for tips. Right now, it’s 95% me handling everything while my wife recovers from her C‑SECTION.

Are there any other dads terrified of sleeping in case something happens? I’m afraid to sleep even when I have free time because I fear my daughter might need me and my wife, i n pain, would have to get up for her.

bluedotswords

Just don't put anything in the crib with her… it helps keep the risk of SIDS down. Keep it just her and the crib, flat on her back. And remember, when she’s sleeping, you need to get some rest too otherwise you won’t be at your best for anyone.

Chilli

Congrats my guy. Follow your Spidey sense and do not trust a fart

fluxxcore

Bro, get as much sleep as you can.
You cannot perform at your best while exhausted.

MidnightRiffer92

Sleep whenever you can. You'll pop out of bed wow, you'll be up in a flash.

Or tell your wife to wake your ass up if you need a nudge.

silencesleeper

Congrats, Dad! But you’ve gotta sleep when the baby sleeps, bro. If you’re wiped out, you won’t help Mom or the little one at all. Just keep her close. If she needs anything, she’ll let you know.

NightscapeRiff

I have a 13‑day‑old baby myself, and I can say this with confidence. If your wife feels well enough, sta y up through the night and sleep during the day. That way she gets the rest she needs, you get the rest you need, and you can watch over the baby.

The first few days are terrifying, but once the baby’s weight steadies around day 7, it only climbs from there.

Also, be sure the baby burps, sanitize the bottles carefully, and keep track of feedings and diaper changes your pediatrician will want that information to decide whether to refer you to a lactation specialist or confirm that the baby is completely healthy.

GalacticRamp

Congrats, brother. Celebrate. Those first days blend joy and exhaustion. Accept the fear of sleep it’s normal. Remember: your baby is tougher than she looks. Rest now so you can stay present. Take shifts whenever possible. Even short naps count. Stop being hard on yourself. Every dad feels that fear at first.