How do I stay positive with an ex who always thinks she’s right?

bengalrecon

56‑YEAR‑OLD, newly single dad of a 15‑year‑old son. I wasn’t married. I’m doing my best not to really, really dislike my son’s mom—it’s tough. How do any of you stay positive when dealing with an EX who thinks she’s right about everything?

Zeropine

I try not to pick fights or argue if I know something’s off, I just let it go in one ear and out the other, unless it’s about my son. That’s how I handle things, on top of dealing with the fact that she’s also an alcoholic.

KevTheRev

I’ve always told my kids that she isn’t making good choices right now. I never speak down about her, even though it’s been the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do. Even now, with my children aged 2, 19, and 18, I only mention her if someone brings her up. I let her own actions speak for her. My wife has been there for them since they weere 4, 5, and 6. I feel deep inside that we both know who the real mom is.

NewGameFlox

I keep noticing how often they think they're right. I realize ego can create so many problems. I remind myself that everything I do for my child is truly for them, and I stand behind that. I know it will be difficult. I try to keep my ego out of parenting and cherish every moment I have. If she's going to screw up, I have to let her.

RiffRaconteur

grey rock method, parallel parenting, zero conversation and keep a 'f you/stfub' up your sleeve