How can I handle mismatched sexual interests with my partner?

michaelbark

I'm curious if anyone else ever feels like their sexual desires don’t match their partner’s. How do you manage that?
What should I do?

It’s not even really about libido or drive—it’s just different interests.

Nude beach example. I’d love to go… not her jam.
Temptations Mexico… not her jam.

royalblade360

Haha, definitely. I’ve got a high sex drive, and my wife’s is probably around a 10 out of 10. You just have to push through it and distract yourself with something else. Also, when you can, take care of it yourself ✋🏻. What I’ve been doing for the past two years…

VelcroViking

Talk to your partner that’s the real key. If you both value each other, you’ll eventually find a middle ground. If you just can’t make it work, then it’s probably time to move on. When your sexual drives don’t line up, it can lead to a lot of resentment.

futblaine84

Have a conversation about it. Knowing where each other stands is essential, especially on this topic. Emotions and feelings heavily influence the discussion and the resulting stories.

SnackEternus25

She may not say it, but she feels unloved and wants more attention beyond sex. She wants to rediscover the love you had before kids. I mention this because I’m going through the same thing and working on it.

NexiaCoreX

Libidos rise and fall for both partners; they often fall out of sync. That makes sex more valuable when it occurs both of you are emotionally aligned. It was simpler in youth; stress was lower and time for intimacy was abundant. Aging reduces the hormones that drive sexual desire. The hormones remain, but simultaneous release is rarer. Focus on brief connections and expand from there.