I’m not sure where to start. I was with my wife for almost ten years and married for almost five. Last month, on April Fools’ Day (4‑1‑2025), I discovered she’d been having an affair for six months. During that time she lost her job, and I picked up extra hours—about 80‑90 hours a week. We have a four‑year‑old and twin one‑year‑olds. In short, she lied for weeks, saying she was trying to fix things. The affair turned out?to be with her mom’s ex‑husband’s half‑brother—a man she’s called “uncle” for twenty years. When I learned this, we’d already been in couples counseling for months. She kept telling me she wanted to fix things, session after session. Then the affair came to light. I tried to be the better husband, offered forgiveness, and said we could work through it if she wanted. Yesterday, while I was at work, I got a text saying she was leaving. She doesn’t want the relationship anymore. Sucks, right? Even Jerry Springer couldn’t have imagined this. All of that to say—if you feel in your gut something’s off? It probably is. Now I have to navigate all of this while my dad is dealing with a brain aneurysm.
