** Warning this is a long story. ***
Just wanted to point out first that I am not post this picture of my ex to be petty but to alert anyone in Arizona or using dating sites that might see her.
This woman has ruined my life and I need help with fixing it and getting my kids away from her.
I never would have imagined that we would be were we are right now. I was with this woman for 6 and a half years before things fell apart starting last year in May. In May 2024 I lost my job due to my driver’s license being suspended. And my job consisted of me driving a box truck and delivering/ installing appliances. I go to the dmv to find out what happened and turns out I was due to a car accident that my wife got in leaving work in June 2023. We had a lapse in insurance at that time because we couldn’t afford it with the all of our other bills and expenses. And since the car is only in my name I am the one with the suspended license, even though I had nothing to do with the accident and wasn’t even in the car for the accident. I wasn’t going to have her name on the car anyways because when I purchased it she didn’t have a job yet and was pregnant with our third child, our son. I didn’t want her to be liable for a missed payment and take a hit to her credit. Back to the job, I lost my job and need to find a new place to work. My ex just started working at a new job and didn’t want to lose it, so she told me whatever I got needed to work with her schedule. To avoid any arguments I agreed and started looking for but it was difficult especially when trying to find someone who will work around someone else’s schedule. So now I am stress with not having a job and having her pay with the help from my family.
July 2024 comes around and things start going down hill from here. A week into the month, I am in the kids bathroom looking for a brush and other hair products for my daughters, and instead I end up finding a sex toy for woman. Mind you at the beginning of my relationship with her one of the first things she told me is that she better not ever find me with a toy for men because she will consider that cheating. So not I’m upset and end up asking her about it when she gets home. She then tells me that she got it a while ago and only used it twice because I refused to have sex with her during those times. At this point my mind shuts down and I am even more upset because she brushed it off like it wasn’t a big deal. A few days go by and she asks me why I haven’t been talking to her and she keeps nagging me to say something. I end up exploding and telling her to shut up and leaves for work upset. I still haven’t found a job at this point and ask her what she thinks if I go back to active duty in the Navy, even though a really don’t want to. She then tells me that if I do whatever duty station I go to I will be going alone and her and the kids will be staying behind. Knowing what that will do to me I tell her that she will be putting unnecessary stress on me because my familiy was my main support while i was in and that we would likely end up getting a divorce from all stress. She then tells me that she wants a divorce then. After several days of talking she ends up saying that she willing to try to work things out and fix our marriage problems. By the end of June I get a call from her saying that she just opened a complaint with a co worker and ingore any rumors that i hear about her. Apparently a guy a work was saying that he had sex with her in his car while on break. Back then I wouldn’t believe that she would do that, but now I am not too sure.
August comes around and it seems like I am the only person trying to fix our marriage, and she starts acting weird and leaving the house to take phone calls. So, one day while I am walking my oldest daughter to school, I take her phone with me, on the way back I check a Facebook account that she has me blocked on and she started a long distance relationship with someone she follows claiming that they are an influencer for relationships advice and he understands her more. We argue about this for several days before she agrees to end things with him. Early September comes around and I feel worried again that something is happening behind my back. I check her phone and see that she is back to dating the same guy and she has about 3 different dating apps downloaded and in use. Again another argument gets started over this and she ends up actually agreeing to end things. At this point I am extremely paranoid and start asking questions when she leaves for anything other than work and trying to track where she goes she ends up getting fed up and says she’s through with our marriage. Since we weren’t able to pay for rent anyways she saved some money and had her family help get tickets for her?and the kids to go to Arizona so she can live with her parents. And I end up getting evicted from our apartment leaving me with another expense on my credit that I can’t pay.
November comes around and she calls me giving me an update and telling me that she started a long distance relationship with someone she met when I was stationed in Virginia. I know that we are separated but that made me upset to hear, and made me wonder what could have happened while I was on deployment and she was home alone. By early February this year she ended things this guy, some time late February she calls me and says that she wants to work things out. I of course stupidly accept because I want our family to be back together again. This last up until Mother’s Day and she goes back to saying she is through with our marriage. And this is after she has already taken most of what little money I get from my military benefits with going to college. Another month passes and she calls again late June and again saying that she wants to work things out but this time she mentions that she will not move back here to South Carolina and that I would have to move to Arizona. At this point I no longer believe her but I accept it anyway in hopes that even if there is a slim chance of keeping the family together and working things out for the sake of our kids I wouldn’t want to miss that opportunity. Then all I get is silence for a week and a half to find out that she went back to online dating. And she then tells me again that she’s done with our marriage.
At this point I need help with getting back on my feet so I get my kids away from her and be done with her for good. Especially since she told me that her family jokes about me in front of the kids, the kids are learning profanity from them, she told me that she is considering letting a doctor give our oldest drugs to help with attitude that only started when they left and realize that I wouldn’t be leaving with them. Not to mention for three weeks she claimed things were too busy for her to let the kids talk to me and she didn’t let them talk to me on Father’s Day.
Any advice or recommendations would be greatly appreciated?
