Is it possible to find love again after leaving a narcissistic relationship?

stinkstoneking9

Long time follower..

I was in a 15‑year relationship with a narcissist. After years of contemplation—especially because we have a child—I finally left her. Healing from the verbal and physical abuse took 2 long years.

I worked on myself physically and mentally. It was a lonely 2 years, but I owed it to myself to become the person I was before I met her. I launched two businesses during that time to stay busy.

After those 2 years I was ready to start dating again. I met this girl about 4 months ago, we became friends, and now we’ve stepped into dating. I haven’t been happier and we share so much in common. Being single for two years paid off!

**Moral of the story: Don't settle. Don't be afraid to take the leap leave and improve yourself. There is light at the end of the tunnel. **

cr1sbyd4n1mal

That's awesome, man. Congrats on putting in the work and doing it right. Healing from that is a huge deal, and most people just don’t get it. I’ve been at it for almost three years and still can’t picture trusting anyone again.

KevTheRev

Separated in October. I have to admit, my ex moved on so quickly with dating. I haven’t had the same experience, especially when it comes to finding closure. I’m trying to check myself on the timeline. It’s only been six months. I’m definitely not over it yet, but goddamn, Tinder feels like a shit show.

KazeFire88

Make sure you define the type of relationship you want, clearly express it, and take confident steps to bring it to life. Communication may feel like a nightmare to a narcissist, but for a healthy person it’s a powerful way to grow together and is genuinely valued. That was a surprisingly strange realization for me.

HypeFlowNocturnal

Same with me man, I married mine!!

GreyCatracho77

I keep telling myself not to let fear dominate my thoughts. I’ve met the girl I’ve always dreamed of, and we’ve just welcomed twins life hits us hard, and we learn to catch each blow together.

spookycoolblitz

Bro, this is a dads group… you don’t have to hide the truth from us! Many of us have walked similar paths… if she left you but you still love her, perhaps you could just say so rather than sharing pictures of her… smh

Kurokaze7

Needed this. Went through a break up with my ex that ended badly. She treated my daughter as her own, though we both had our differences and flaws we couldn’t overcome. I know soon it that I made the right decision to leave, and that it’ll be worth it in the end.

hammericy

This gives me hope, the dating pool is crazy

PoloPikachuKrush

I find myself relating to this; I was with someone for ten years, and I lingered longer than I perhaps ought to have, aware that things weren’t truly working 🤷🏻‍♂️

I eventually left, and it took three years for me to move on. Then I met a truly amazing woman, the complte opposite of my ex, and she restored my belief in relationships 👌🏻. It’s remarkable how different life feels when you encounter someone who wants to share a life together rather than constantly argue over petty matters 🤷🏻‍♂️

ForetuennyZobix

I’ve been single for three years, and it’s hard especially at my age, which seems to fall somewhere between bar junkies and those who are recently divorced, or so it feels.

Rendmat123

Exactly what I needed to hear!

Congratulations to you.

I just started and there's no direction when I should allow anyone in my life yet.

StarLord20K

I went through that exact same journey eight years ago. I left my ex, devoted myself to mental and physical growth, and remained single for two years. Then, when the timing finally felt right, I met the woman I’m with now, and I truly couldn’t be happier.

Flamecrust23

Great story. Work on yourself to become a better person. I was in the same situation years ago. So I know what you mean, bro.

CarterMonkeyBall

Great stuff, congratulations brother. Enjoy your new relationship!

royalblade360

The stuff men go through with female narcissists isn’t talked about enough. We always hear about the guy being the narcissist and not causing any issues. Nice work deciding to choose yourself, and congrats on getting the relationship you deserve!

MelodicVibes85

Acknowledge you were with a narcissist for nearly 20 years. Recognize you ignored early warning signs. Admit you believed false stories that painted the ex as victim and you as hero. Realize now it was classic covert narcissism. Note you haven’t seen your son since September. Admit you have no idea where he is. Understand you’re being told he doesn’t want to see you. See that the new boyfriend, who apparenttly has his own mental issues, was chosen because he is easy to manipulate. Hope to move on with a new partner someday, but know today is not that day. Expect a long recovery.

MatusDilly101

Wow, awesome story man. So proud of you. Congratulations

redgeek13

Congrats! I was in the same boat single for four years after being cheated on. Then I met the girl of my dreams and haven’t looked back. Baby #2’s on the way and I’ve never been more excited or happy. Don’t settle for less, gents!

CobraMambo

I truly love your message for the other men in this group! 🙏🏿🔥💯🫶

You truly understand your worth!
You left a harmful situation and chose yourself first!
You’ve worked hard on yourself to become the best version you can be for you and your child.
You set boundaries and honor them, respecting yourself.
By focusing on your growth and not chasing after women, you attracted the right kind of woman (men should notice this instead of acting on impulse).

You’re amazing, brother. I’m so happy for you!