How can I co-parent with a toxic ex without losing my sanity?

BrynRyeLuka84

Okay, I could honestly use advice! I’m going through a nasty divorce right now. I’ll have to co‑parent with a woman who put me in jail and keeps trying to make my life hell. I don’t know how to deal with it, especially since she’ll be petty and chaotic. I want m y child in my life, but I don’t want to be dragged back into a bad situation or mental state. What can I do, y’all?

Zeropine

Be non anxious, non violent, and non threatening. Record everything.

KevTheRev

Grey rock, man, no joke. It takes the emotion out of every response (and then I call a trusted ally and vent). I get my ego out of the way, kill her with kindness, and let my relationship with my child eat her alive.

conquestb0ky

You're not the only one, unfortunately. I'm dealing with something very similar. Find a tenacious lawyer mine's a woman and be the calmer one in the partnership. Stay reasonable and keep track of everything. Don't get petty yourself; let your lawyer handle that. That's their job. It’ll be a long, tough road, but your kids are worth it in the end. Good luck, brother!

CptLogiWings

I'm dealing with the same thing right now. If you want to talk, my situation's toxic too, so I understand more than you think.

ArSuperHolicon

You can parallel parent
Google the gray‑rock method

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VidyaGeneral

Mind your manners, get a GREAT lawyer, and make your kid the #1 priority. Hang in there what steps are you planning to take next?

futbollaeffermint

I’m sorry you are facing this challenge. A divorce is an extremely difficult situation for men to experience. I know it was for me. Please take care of yourself and avoid allowing yourself to be used to appease her (I unfortunately did for too long). Focus on aspects you can change and work on building yourself up. If you would like some tools that could help, consider the ARC System – Create An Unbreakable Marriage (Dads Only).