Well, it really depends on the reason why. If it's something we can talk about in the moment, I try to do that. But if the conversation becomes unproductive because of heightened emotions, it's best to let it go until another time.
It also depends on whether it's something that falls into a green, yellow, or red category for me. Red would be something extremely important and worth discussing as soon as possible. Yellow is something we need to solve or change over time (or find a middle ground). Green is something that isn't really that important I might just need some alone time and self reflection to realize that we just do and say things differently, but both ways work well for the kids in the end.
Overall, the past year has been pretty calm, but before that, there were a lot of yellow and red categories we had to sort out and work through.
