How do you cope when your ex moves on financially while you’re still

crowbaggus

My ex just said she's buying a house, while I'm FINANCIALLY RUINED after the divorce. I can’t even picture that possibility. I’m not sad, not angry—just… lost. How do y’all handle that aspect?

Zeropine

That’s a boundary. “I don’t need to hear about your financial decisions.”

Chilli

Take time to rebuild and try again. This time, don’t have a wife living in the same house. It sounds harsh, but it will help prevent this.

AshyBeasto69

Put all your effort into stabilizing and growing your finances. Take small, steady steps forward each day.

Flamecrust23

Life has seasons; you’re in a different one. Practice self‑love. Put in the work.

BlossomBlazer

Dude, my soon‑to‑be EX always hated our house. NOW SHE’S AIMING TO BUY ME OUT.

Meanwhile I’ve been at home with our 2‑year‑old (now almost 3) six days a week for the past ten months, trying to fundraise for my business, and she has refused to start childcare.

It sucks, but like all things related to the divorce, let it go.

Savagewitchbrew

Ignore her utterly unless its about the kids

SparkzByte

Dude, you can really do this. Who cares if she is buying a house. Not your business. Just keep working and saving. You can make it happen.

WolfyNotrab133

Start with your own path. It may feel like rock bottom, but it’s up to you to lift yourself up and make the most of what you have. Set small daily goals and larger yearly ones.

I started over. I sold my old school ’68 Camaro, my commuter car, my favorite shoes, cameras, and other things that held value. I did it to get through hard times, dealing with legal and custody issues.

You’ve got this.

Khaoskryst

Totally the wrong mindset. Focus on yourself and don’t talk to your ex unless you’re co‑parenting.

MiraByte42

I got financially ruined, lost everything bc I was broke as hell. I’d be super pissed if my ex did that, lol. But tbh I rebuilt, bought a house, and got everything back actually better within 4 years. Use it as motivation if you can.

NeonKnight

Shes literally only telling you to bother you. Dont even engage. Say congrats. Me too.

JackMilo

Congratulate her and focus on yourself and what you need to do. As long as she provides a safe place for your child, that is all that matters. Your time will come, too.

xnavviloco

I work on many rich people's houses, and I have to say, honestly, the bigger the house, the deeper their crippling debt. 🤣

MidnightVagabondX

Been there.
Just gotta focus on you, man.
Build yourself back up, no regrets.
Move on and leave the past be.
Positivity!

NebulaNinja88

I’ve heard my ex has been buying a house for over three years. Sometimes they say and do things just to get a reaction.

BruteLogicKunos

Perhaps you could use it as motivation to rebuild yourself. It might be helpful to focus on you and your kids. Maybe try not to worry about what she’s doing. It’s tough, but perhaps you’ll end up better because of it.

JoshCartwheel

Don't worry about it. Your time will come.

MugheesKruten

Focus on yourself. She’s out of the picture. Becoming a better man means climbing out of the mess. Be patient, work hard, and let your successes stay quiet.

KhaosRebels

Keep being yourself and don’t worry about the ex you're going to advance yourself! Stay positive, bro!