How do I get emergency full custody after my girlfriend's arrest?

cryptodadbread · 2026-02-08T12:30:09+00:00

My girlfriend lives with me. This morning she called the police twice and was jailed for shoving a door into my back while holding our 9‑month‑old daughter. She takes our daughter everywhere, never tells me where she’s going, and spends hours with unknown people. She refuses to leave the baby with me or pump milk so she can stay home. I have a court date.on September 9 for PA, custody, and support. I’m considering seeking full custody now. She has nowhere to move and will probably lose her nursing job. What do you think? She lives rent‑free in my home, pays no bills, and doesn’t buy groceries, diapers, or wipes. She works at most two days a week and often calls off; I buy all clothes and necessities. This is my first time dealing with a situation like this and I feel lost. I don’t want her to get out of jail and try to take our daughter. Police told me to contact my lawyer and request an emergency custody hearing. What do you think? Any advice? Anything will help now. Update: She was released, returned, caused a scene trying to get her belongings, and police were called again. The state served her an order of protection, yet she forced me to hand our daughter to her. How is this fair? If it were me, I wouldn’t be allowed near either of them again. I have no criminal record, own a landscaping business, am well known in town, and am a USMC veteran.

infinaemouton

You really shouldn’t’ve handed your daughter over. Now that you have her, it’s gonna be a hell of a lot harder getting her back. With DV n the presence of your kid, if you get a lawyer and go to court it’s gonna be tough to say you fear for your daughter’s safety, etc. tbh, I’d change all the locks on your house, file for emergency custody bc of the DV and the altercation as soon as she gets out of jail. If you can’t snag an attorney now, go to the courthouse and ask for the paperwork you need to file for emergency custody. If she files for custody first, your uphill battle just got a hell of a lot harder. Gather all your evidence to present to the court and brace yourself for false allegations to pop up.

JelloBarken

Lawyer up and go for custody for the kids sake

LiquidKarl

Seek full custody. Even if you later reconcile, choose it to keep the family intact. Don’t look back.

infantrydigital

Get a protection order for you and the child, and stay firm on those charges. They'll try to convince you to lower them, but don’t. Find a good lawyer.

HumanoidDra

It won’t stop, because that kind of behavior seems woven into who she is perhaps a shadow from her upbringing. I truly believe she can open her eyes, to truly see that she has a family, not just a friend. No child, no one, should be scarred by such behavior.

DigitalNBR32

Bro, you got this! It’s super‑hard as all get out, and the system is stupid‑thin in so many ways. Get that paperwork done now!

PracticalNaik

File for emergency custody now. Returning the child to her will make it harder. You face a tough situation because the child is being breastfed. Her attorney will claim you could have used formula. She may lose her nursing license if convicted of domestic violence. They will try to pressure you to drop charges. Think carefully. Your attorney will guide you.

felixnullquaid

Go for full custody. It won’t get any better, and your daughter deserves the best. You’ve got this! You’ve already taken the right steps.

xdelpawn3cut

Im sorry my man 🙁 keep your head up

ApexStevieTom

Fight like hell for your kid. Screw her. Love doesn’t do that to people. Contact your attorney and keep pressing. Document everything. Even if it means you record every phone conversation, video‑record meetups, interactions, whatever it may be. No matter what you do, keep your cool and don’t act in self‑defense against her. The law often sends the child back to the mother until you provide solid proof that shows a judge how badly a mother can behave. Giving birth shouldn’t give th em more rights over the child than the father has.

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